Dreams Deciphered: How Modern Men are Cultured to Hate Women!?

If you're not the type to keep up with ugly, bone chilling, soul-killing social and political controversies, let me catch you up: A while back, when the Noida Police revealed the identity of a minor girl who was brutally gang-raped in a moving car. It caused a national outrage. If that was not enough, the Noida Superintendent of Police cast aspersions on the girl's character at a press conference. Besides the fact that, by doing so, the police flagrantly violated the law of the land - section 228-A of the Indian Penal Code defines the disclosure of the identity of rape victims as an offence punishable by up to two years of imprisonment - it also gave a peek into the minds of the police and how they see the raped and the rapist. A few weeks later, the Gurgaon Police outraged civil society by proposing a blanket curfew on working women in the city after 8 pm without prior permission from the Labor Department. This was the first reaction by the police after the report of a brutal gang-rape of a pub employee by six men. The police made no statement about the rapists. Later, however, the police put out a statement asserting they had been misquoted by the media. If you really want to feel all dead inside, you need to listen to what the other educated modern day police were saying.

SUNIL KUMAR, SHO, Ghaziapur, East Delhi - "Go to a pub in South Delhi. Go to Greater Kailash where there is free entry for girls. Jinhone 1,000 rupaiye mein wo karna hai wo wahan jati hain. Daru bhi peeti hai aur aap ke saath sex bhi karti hai... Jis din koi thok dega rape ho jayega. (In these places you'll find girls who want to do 'it' for Rs. 1,000. They will drink and also have sex with you. The day somebody uses force, it becomes rape)."

ARJUN SINGH, SHO, Surajpur Police Station, Greater Noida - "Ladkiya ek seemit daire main, seemit kapdon main nahi niklengi... to apne aap khichaon ho jata hai. Wo khichaon bhi aggressive kar deta hai ki kar do bas (If girls don't stay within their boundaries, if they don't wear appropriate clothes, then naturally there is attraction. This attraction makes men aggressive, prompting them to just do it). Yeh (girl) itne kapde pehni hui hai; wo isiliye taaki log mujhse akarshit ho aur mere saath kuch na kuch kare. Isiliye ho jaati hai" (She is dressed in a manner that people get attracted to her. In fact, she wants them to do something to her.)"

RAJPAL YADAV, Additional SHO, Sector 29, Gurgaon - "Yahan pe Darjeeling aur Nepal tak ki ladkiyan business purpose se aye hai... wo jaate bhade pe hain. Baad mein paisa nahi mila to rape case bata diya jata hai (Girls from Darjeeling and Nepal have come here for business purposes. They go with men for money. Later, when the money is not sufficient, it becomes a rape). Yahan log bahar se aaye hain... Filmon main dekh rahe hai. Bilkul nangapan saa aagaya hai yahan par. Filmon ko dekh kar yeh sab ho raha hai; nashe ki aadat pad gayi hai. Bahar se aye hue hain woh apne culture koh jo Indian culture hai usko chhod rahe hain (People have come from outside. They watch films and get influenced. There is complete nudity; people have taken to alcohol. Also, outsiders, from outside NCR, have forgotten Indian culture)."

Ram Kumar Malik, the investigating officer for the case of the girl raped by Class X students is unrepentant. Sub-Inspector Malik pins the blame yet again on the victim alone - "Is case (the above mentioned) mein jo real baat hai, ladki vodka peene ki habitual hai. Usne vodka party mangi, 6,000 mein book ho gai. Physical relation ke liye 6,000 mange. Baad mein mukadma likha diya. Yeh real baat hai. Mere pass uske call detail ka record hai; unka purana relation hai. (The real issue here is that the girl is a habitual vodka drinker and had asked for a vodka party. She then demanded Rs. 6,000 for sex. When the money wasn't paid, she registered a rape complaint. I have her call records that establish she had a relationship with one of the accused). Is ladki ki ma ka pehle hi divorce ho gaya. Aur wo ek Yadavji ke saath beth gayi. Uski umar 48 hai, admi 28 saal ka. Saath mein do ladkiyan. Behekna to tei ho gaya. Nahi ho gaya? (The girl's mother is divorced. She's living with another man from the Yadav community. She's 48 whereas the man is 28. It's inevitable the two daughters will be wayward, isn't it?). Ab jab 48 saal ki ma, 28 saal ke purush ke saath so rahi hai, do jawan ladkiyan dekh rahi hain, unko bhi zaroorat hogi. Sex is like hunger," he continues. (Now when two young girls watch their 48-year-old mother sleeping with a 28-year-old man, even they'll be aroused. Sex is like hunger)."

Jangsher Singh, SHO, DLF Phase-2 Police Station, who is investigating the recent rape case of the 23-year-old pub worker - "Isme kuch nahi hai. Chote chote bacche the... Do baar ladki ne baat ki ladkon se. Compromise karna hai toh compromise karlo. Ladki ne khud bol diya... money toh hai hi yaar. Money ke saath sauda kiya jaata hai (This case is nothing. They were young kids. The girl spoke twice to the boys about striking a 'compromise'. It's all about money. It's only with money deals are stuck). Cooperation hai. Bahut kam hai main manta hoon; one ya two percent jisme nahi hota...consent main hi hua yeh (The girls cooperate. I believe it's very rare that there will be no cooperation... this case too had the girl's consent)."

Referring to the DLF case, SHO, Jagdish Prasad - "The girl is 27-years-old, the boys are 18 to 20-years-old. They are kids. She was dancing with these kids in the bar... I am telling you she induced them... the girl came and gave her phone number to them."

Satbir Singh, Additional SHO of Sector 31 Police Station, Faridabad - "Agar koi bhi bacche ko kisi ladki ka sha- reer kapdon ke andar se dikhega to usme uttejna paida hogi...Ladkiya jo hai unko yahan tak yahan tak (He gestures to mean that women should cover their entire body, then carries on speaking)... Skirt pehenti hai. Blouse dalti hai; poora nahi dalti hai. Dupatta nahi dalti. Apne aapko dikhawa karti hai. Baccha uske taraf akarshit hota hai (If a girl is wearing transparent clothes it will encourage lewd thoughts in any kid. Girls wear short skirts. They wear a blouse that leaves nothing to the imagination. They don't wear dupattas. They flaunt their bodies. The kid naturally gets attracted to her)."

Yogender Singh Tomar, Additional SHO, Sector 39, Noida - "Aasaan nahi hota uske liye. Bezzati se sabhi darti hai. Akhbaar baazi se bhi darti hai. Asliyat main wahin aati hai jo dhande main lipt hoti hai (It's never easy for the victim. Everyone is scared of humiliation. Everyone's wary of media and society. In reality, the ones who complain are only those who have turned rape into a business). Upper caste toh nahi aati Upper caste ki to mukkadma hi darj nahi hota. Aata hi nahi koi. Hota hi nahi hai. Ab hota hoga toh humaare paas nahi aa rahe hai (Upper caste people never file rape complaints. Rape never happens there. If it happens, it never comes to us)."

SATBIR SINGH, Additional SHO, Sector 39, Faridabad - "One lakh. Two lakh. Fifty lakh. Logon ko ye pata chal gaya hai ki ye achcha paisa kamaane ka dhanda hai... business hai. Income source dhoond liya hai logon ne. Aam baat hai... kharcha nahi hota. Money nahi hote.Gharwale kharch ke liye paise nahi dete. Wo phir razabandi se kaam chalta hai (People have understood this is a lucrative trade for women; it's business. They've found an income source. It's common; you're short of money, your parents don't give you money to spend. You make compromises)."

ROOP LAL, Sub-Inspector, Gurgaon - "Birthday ke sambandh main party do... aur woh akeli ladki hai, un teeno ke saath jaa rahi hai, aur dekh rahi hai ki saale daaru bhi pee rahe hai saath main. To yeh bilkul ladies ko pata hai is baat ka, ki kya hoga. Jab wo khud hi party karne lagi hai, to wo rape nahi keh sakte. Rape kaise kahoge? Daaru ke sang unke saath baith rahi hai... to dimag to tere main bhi hai, jab tu chatra hai kisliye party mang rahi hai, kisliye inke saath jaa rahi hai? (If a girl asks for a birthday party and is alone with 2-3 boys and sees they are drinking, she knows what is likely to happen. When she herself goes for such a party, she can't complain of rape. How can you call it rape if she is sitting and drinking with them? You are a student and have brain of your own. Why are you going out with them?)."

Now if that isn't enough to convince you. Go to the front page of any mostly male discussion site like Reddit.com and see how many inches you can browse before finding several thousand men bemoaning how all women are gold-digging whores (7,500 upvotes) and how crazy and irrational women are (9,659 upvotes) and how horrible and gross and fat women are (4,000 upvotes). Or browse through Facebook’s meme’s, which promotes, women’s place as the kitchen and one must stay there. Or visit this page here. Before you go down and put another stain on the already tainted administrative system of India. You must also look into the fact that a report by UNICEF says that 57 percent of young Indian men in the 15-19 age bracket think that wife beating is justified, according to a report in The Times of India on Wednesday, April 25th, 2012.

This current of white-hot rage has to come as a surprise to some of you, because we tend to think "sexism" is being dismissive toward women, watching their perfectly crafted booties and fapping about it in the men’s washroom or paying them lower salaries -- we don't think of it as frenzied "burn the witch!" hatred. Yet occasionally something like the dismal approach of Delhi police will come along to prick that balloon, and out it pours. Like it's always waiting there, a millimeter below the surface.

Why? Well, you see...

#7. Our culture taught us to do so

Every modern civilization has a history and this history is determined by its culture among various other factors. Culture, according to my psychology class is:

A: The integrated pattern of human behavior that includes thought, speech, action, and artifacts and depends upon the human capacity for learning and transmitting knowledge to succeeding generations.

B: The customary beliefs, social forms, and material traits of a racial, religious, or social group.

Here we’re only concerned with race, religion and the artifact aspect of the culture. The custom of sati, dowry and child marriage is nothing new to anyone reading this. This is something we’ve been hearing since we were kids. And have now been seeing in a lot of television shows too.

I have read the Manusmriti, and I found to my dismay that the code set by Manusmriti is a lot discriminating to woman reducing them to something like menial workers. The caste system mentioned in the Smriti is unbelievable that it gives the feeling as though caste system had something to do with Hinduism. How come an incarnation of Vishnu, give mankind, a set of codes that sets a sort of discriminative rules against the weaker sex, and the rigid caste system? For those who do not know Hinduism is derived from Manusmriti.

These are the verses from the Manusmriti. Can someone explain why woman is portrayed in such a manner?

· Every woman must be loyal, faithful, obedient and honorable to her husband even if he is blind, deaf, dumb, old, physically handicapped, debauched or, gambler and neglects his wife and lives with his concubine(s). If the husband is unhappy, it would be the fault of his wife. If he cries, she should cry. If he laughs she should laugh. She can only answer humbly to his question. She should not on her own put any question. She should eat only after her husband eats. If he is beating she should not react, but fall on his feet and beg him to pardon her, and kiss his hands and pacify him. If the husband dies she should burn herself to death on his funeral pyre (SATI) and go along with him to the other world and serve him there in this manner. (Padma Purana).

· Women are fickle minded. Never believe them. Friendship with a woman is just like friendship with a wolf. (Rig-Veda 8-33-7).

· A virtuous woman is one who dies on the funeral pyre of her dead husband and avails the privilege of serving her husband in the other world. (Atharva Veda 18-3-1).

· Woman is the source of sorrow. At birth she makes her mother weep. At the time of the puberty she makes her parents weep. At the time of the marriage she makes all her family members and relatives weep. In youth she commits lot of blunders and brings bad name to the entire family, relatives and Varna. She tortures the hearts of her parents, husband and other family members. She is called 'DARIKA' because she is source of sorrow to all. (Aithareya Brahmana).

· Women are liars, corrupt, greedy, and virtuous. (Manu II 1).

· Even for a woman, the performance of the sanskaras is necessary and they should be performed. But they should be performed without uttering the Veda Mantras." (Manu II. 60).

· It is the nature of women to seduce men in this (world); the wise are never unguarded in the company of males. (Manu II. 213).

· For women are able to lead astray in (this) world not only a fool, but even a learned man, and (to make) him a slave of desire and anger." (Manu II.214).

· One should not sit in a lonely place with one's mother, sister or daughter, for the senses are powerful, and master even a learned man." (Manu II. 215).

· A Brahmin male by virtue of his birth becomes the first husband of all women in the universe. (Manu III. 14).

· Women not care for beauty, nor is their attention fixed on age; (thinking); (it is though that) he is a man; they give themselves to the handsome and to the ugly. (Manu IV. 14).

· By a girl, by a young woman, or even by an aged one, nothing must be done independently, even in her own house." (Manu IV. 147).

· In childhood a female must be subject to her father, in youth to her husband, when her lord is dead to her sons; a woman must never be independent. (Manu IV. 148).

· She must not seek to separate herself from her father, husband or son; by leaving them. She would make them both (her own and her husband's) family incompatible. (Manu IV. 149).

· A Brahman must never eat food given at a sacrifice performed by a woman. (Manu IV. 205).

· Sacrifices performed by women are inauspicious and not acceptable to god. They should therefore be avoided. (Manu IV. 206).

· A girl must be under the care of her father, in youth under the care of the husband and in old age under the care of her sons. But she should never be free and independent. (Manu V. 148).

· She must always be cheerful, clever in management of her household affairs, careful in cleaning her utensils and economical in expenditure. (Manu V. 150).

· Him to whom her father may give her, or her brother with the father's permission, she shall obey as long as he lives and when he is dead, must not insult his memory. (Manu V. 151).

· The husband who wedded her with sacred mantras is always a source of happiness to his wife, both in season and out of season, in this world and in the next. (Manu V1. 53).

· Though destitute or virtuous, or seeking pleasure elsewhere, or devoid of good qualities, yet a husband must be constantly worshipped as a god by a faithful wife. (Manu V. 154).

· No sacrifice, no vow, no fast must be performed by women, apart from their husbands. If a wife obeys her husband, she will for that reason alone be exalted in heaven. (Manu V. 155).

· At her pleasure let her (i.e. widow) enunciate her body, by living voluntarily on pure flowers, roots and fruits, but let her not when her lord is deceased, even pronounce the name of another man. (Manu V. 157).

· But a widow, who from a wish to bear children, slights her deceased husband by marrying again, brings disgrace on herself here below, and shall be excluded from the seat of her lord (in heaven). (Manu V. 161).

· Responsibly the father who gives not (his daughter) in marriage at the proper time. (Manu IX. 4).

· A woman must always maintain her virtue and surrender her body to her husband only, ever if she is married off to an ugly person or even a leper. (Manu IX. 14).

· Through their passion for men, through their mutable temper, through their natural heartlessness, they become disloyal towards their husbands; however, carefully they may be guarded in this (world). (Manu IX. 15).

· Knowing their disposition, which the Lord of Creatures laid in them at the creation, to be such, (every) man should most strenuously exert him to guard them. (Manu IX. 16).

· When creating them, Manu allotted to women (a love of their) bed, (of heart) seat and (of) ornament, impure desires, wrath, dishonesty, malice, and bad conduct. (Manu IX. 17).

· Killing of a woman, a Shudra or an atheist is not sinful. Woman is an embodiment of the worst desires, hatred, deceit, jealousy and bad character. Women should never be given freedom. (Manu IX. 17 and V. 47, 147).

· Women have no right to study the Vedas. That is why their Sanskars are performed without Veda Mantras. Women have no knowledge of religion because they have no right to know the Vedas. The uttering of Veda Mantras, they are as unclean as untruth is." (Manu IX. 18).

· All women are born of sinful wombs. (Bhagavad-Gita IX 32).

· The husband is declared to be one with the wife, which means there could be no separation once a woman is married. (Manu IX. 45).

· Neither by sale nor by repudiation is a wife released from her husband. (Manu IX. 46).

· To a distinguished, handsome suitor of equal caste should she have not attained (the proper age) (i.e. although she may not have reached puberty). (Manu IX. 88).

· A wife, a son and a slave, they three are declared to have no property: the wealth which they earn is (acquired) for him to whom they belong. (Manu IX. 416).

· None of the acts of women can be taken as good and reasonable. (Manu X.4).

· Day and night women must be kept in dependence by males (of their families), and, if they attach themselves to sexual enjoyments, they must be kept under one's control. (Manu XI2).

· Her father protects (her) in childhood, her husband protects (her) in youth, and her sons protect (her) in old age; a woman is never fit for independence." (Manu XI. 3).

· Women must particularly be guarded against evil inclinations, however trifling (they may appear); for, if they are not guarded, they will bring sorrow on to families." (Manu XI. 5).

· Considering that the highest duty of all castes even weak husbands (must) scribe to guard their wives. (Manu XI. 6).

· A woman shall not perform the daily sacrifices prescribed by the Vedas. Then according to IX.37 if she does it, she will go to hell. (Manu XI. 36)1, 2, 3, 4 From- Casteism: The Eighth Worst Wonder by Dr. S. L. Virdi, Pages-39-43).

I’m sure each one of us reading this has come across this or seen it occurring, some place with someone we know. For the rest thinking that other religions fare better than the one discussed above take some time out to read about Lilith. If you’re still not satisfied let me give you a modern day example of another religion demeaning women.

Egypt is to soon legalize necrophilia. And fornication is punishable by death. Meaning if you screw, you're dead & if you're dead you're screwed.

Now some people might want to argue that crimes against women in this religion is punishable by death but having said that how justified is the fact that the women here have no independence at all, they cannot indulge in polygamy as their male counterparts and they’re only looked down upon as baby producing machines.

#6. We Were Told That Society Owed Us a Hot Girl

Well, you have to keep in mind that what we learn as kids is really hard to deprogram as an adult. And what we learned as kids is that we males are each owed, and will eventually be awarded, a beautiful woman aka Sapno Ki Rajkumari.

We were told this by every movie, TV show, novel, comic book, video game and song we encountered. When the Karate Kid wins the tournament, his prize is a trophy and that hot chick Elisabeth Shue. Neo saves the world and is awarded the smooth assed Trinity. Marty McFly gets his dream girl, John McClane gets his ex-wife back, Keanu "Speed" Reeves gets Sandra Bullock, Shia LaBeouf gets the love of my life, Megan Fox in Transformers, Iron Man gets Pepper Potts, the hero in Avatar gets the hottest Na'vi, Shrek gets Fiona, Bill Murray gets Sigourney Weaver in Ghostbusters, Frodo gets Sam, WALL-E gets EVE ... and so on and so forth.

Oh! Let me not get into Bollywood movies. Here we’ve instances where the hero comes back from the dead to reclaim his girl. Which is fuckton, batshit, epic crazy and hilarious if you ever watch these movies from a critical viewpoint.

Then we have Star Wars, where Luke starts out getting Princess Leia (in The Empire Strikes Back), but then as Han Solo became a fan favorite, George Lucas realized he had to award her to him instead (forcing him to write the "She's secretly Luke's sister" thing into Return of the Jedi, even though it meant adding the weird incest vibe to Empire). With Harry Potter, J.K. Rowling played with the convention by having the beautiful girl get awarded to the sidekick character Ron, but she made it a central conflict in the story that Ron is constantly worried that, since Harry is the main character, Hermione will be awarded to him instead.

In each case, the woman has no say in this -- compatibility doesn't matter, prior relationships don't matter, nothing else factors in. If the hero accomplishes his goals, he is awarded his favorite female. Yes, there will be dialogue that maybe makes it sound like the woman is having doubts, and she will make noises like she is making the decision on her own. But we, as the audience, know that in the end the hero will "get the girl," just as we know that at the start of the month we're going to "get our paycheck." Failure to award either is breaking a societal contract. The girl can say what she wants, but we all know that at the end, she will wind up with the hero, whether she knows it or not.

Now you see the problem. From birth we're taught that we're owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we're heroes for just getting through our day. I’ve thought of myself to be Goku, Peter, Bruce to name a few.

So it's very frustrating, and I mean frustrating to the point of violence, when we don't get what we're owed. A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It's why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won't win him sex. It's why we go to "slut" and "whore" as our default insults -- we're not mad that women enjoy sex. We're mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.

Yes, the women in these stories are being portrayed as wonderful and beautiful and perfect. But remember, there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them.

Which brings us to the next problem...

#5. We're trained from Birth to See You as Decoration

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with putting a pretty girl on the cover of a magazine or posing her next to a shiny new car. The pretty girl gets a good job, men want her, women want to be her, everybody is happy. Right?

The problem is that it goes way deeper than that.

From my experience, if there is a fundamental difference between male and female sexuality, it's this: There are actual occasions where women aren't thinking about sex. Frankly speaking how many females can we recall, without the use of Google, who’ve some position of power in the respective field of expertise. 1…2…3 at max may be? How many of us remember Hina Rabbani Khar? All of us remember her, don’t we? How many of us actually remember her position/designation (not the women on top, I mean) in her country? Not many I’m sure of it.

So the undermining logic here is that we remember her because of her beauty and not because of the fact that she was the then foreign minister of Pakistan. See our first instinct is still to judge women on her suitability as a sex partner. It's the first thing we notice (boobs and ass). And you could just write that off as a bunch of douches being shallow, but then you have to realize how all of society has conformed to this. Forget about objectification in the media or fashion industry -- go to a diner, they've got the pretty girl waiting tables. Go to a department store, they'll have a pretty girl selling you pants.

In case there are still doubts left about this try to recall and compare how much you remember about Indra Nooyi, Chandra Kochhar, Kalpana Chawla and Kiran Bedi as opposed to Anushka Sharma, Angelina Jolie, Catherine Zeta Jones, Sania Mirza and so on…

See, that's the difference. With men, there are some scenarios where it stops mattering how he looks. With women, it always matters. In a comedy movie, the male wacky sidekick can be the chubby Zach Galifianakis from Hangover or the nearly deformed Steve Buscemi. But if the female wacky sidekick isn't attractive, like the overweight Melissa McCarthy in Bridesmaids, then every scene needs to be about how ugly and fat and mannish she is. That has to be the core of her character.

Her role in society or level of accomplishment doesn't matter. Even if she's a foreign minister, the female always has a dual role: to function as a person, and to act as décor.

And we get pissed if she doesn't do her job. She owes it to us to be pretty. That's the social contract as we've understood it from the time we were toddlers.

And it's a no-win situation. We hate you if you're ugly; if you're pretty, then...we’ll fap about you or fuck you.

#4. We Think You're Conspiring with Our Boners to Ruin Us

First, you need to understand something about the unique love/hate relationship men have with their penises. The relation is to such an extent that they won't shy naming their horses and having weird conversations with it in their subconscious. I love my willy the most and I’m sure any other guy if asked the same in person would say the same. Unless it’s Justin Beiber. Oh! Wait is Justin a guy, girl or a girl/guy? Someone please clear the confusion. Similarly, the first thing the guy looks at and adores when he wakes up in the morning is his manhood. If you're still not satisfied Google search for " Dear Penis - Rodney Carrington."

How many times have you come across stories of people fapping in school/college/workplace? A lot of times I’m sure and they all have something in common: They're all guys.

Seriously, do a Google search for "masturbating in public." Notice something in common with all of those stories? They're all dudes. Obviously I'm not saying women don't pleasure themselves (every single study would prove me a liar); I'm saying that men are far, far more likely to engage in extremely high-risk masturbation in public. They're more likely to do it at work, and they're more likely to do it in situations where they could go to jail or face public humiliation. No, it's not some rare, weird exhibitionist fetish, either. It's that they can't even wait the couple of hours it'd take to do it safely at home.

It's why I refer to my nosy, noisy and unhygienic neighbors as “LUND”

It makes absolutely no sense. All calculation of risk goes out the window. Why? It's because, in males more so than females, the sex drive is completely detached from the rest of the personality. The part of the male brain that worries about job security or money or social reputation or legal consequences has almost no veto power over the sex drive. You've heard guys say they were "thinking with their dick" or "I was thinking with the little brain" or "I took an order from Captain Boner." That's what they're referring to.

Science doesn't seem to totally understand why the "base urges" part of the brain reacts differently in men. Maybe it's just a matter of having 10 times as much testosterone in their system, or maybe society has trained us to be like this, or maybe we're all spoiled children. My theory is that evolution needs males who will stay horny even in times of crisis or distress, and thus cuts off the brain's ability to tamp down those urges. Whatever -- nailing down the cause isn't the point. The point is that a man can be giving the condolence speech at his own grandmother's funeral, and if there is a girl in the front row showing cleavage, he will be imagining himself pressing those boobs in his face, with his own dead grandmother not five feet away.

When that happens, when we get that boner at the funeral, we get mad at the girl showing the cleavage. Because we, ourselves, our own rational personality that knows right from wrong and appropriate from inappropriate, know this is a bad place to get a boner. So it comes off like cleavage girl is conspiring with our penis to screw us over.

Is that a crazy thing to think? Yep! That's why it's so frustrating, especially if you don't have a whole lot of emotional maturity, and grew up with male role models who had even less.

No, this doesn't excuse anything. Obviously, "She was asking for it!" is still a bullshit rape defense. All I'm saying is when you see guys actually get annoyed or angry at the sight of a girl showing too much skin, or if you see them eager to degrade or humiliate the girls at the pub, this is why. It's probably why some Muslims make their women cover themselves head to toe.

And in the Bible, it is Eve who tempts Adam to sin ... by conspiring with a snake.

Every male reading this is going to think I'm belaboring the obvious (after all, the world is full of comedy bits about how hot girls are almost demonic in their ability to control males against their will). But I have never explained this to a woman who didn't look at me like I was insisting that all men are secretly werewolves.

But even this isn't the thing that makes us angriest...

#3. We Feel like Manhood Was Stolen from Us at Some Point

You know how every comedy has that stock character of the womanizing, amoral guy who just says what he thinks all the time, and cares only about him? Joey in Friends, Charlie Sheen in Two and a Half Men, Jim Carrey in Mask, Adam Sandler in 50 First Dates, James Bond in the Bond series, Stiffler in American Pie, Ranveer Singh in Ladies vs Ricky Bahl.

Guys love that character because he's doing what, on some level, we all wish we could do. It's also why you have all of these ad campaigns desperately appealing to males who fear that they've lost their masculinity ("If you use a competitor's product, we're going to have to take away your Man Card!")

See, every single male can remember the first time, when he was 5 or 6 years old, he showed his penis to a stranger and everybody started freaking the hell out. He can remember the first time he got in trouble for hitting somebody, for peeing in public, for trying to jump off some high object or set something on fire. The entire core male urges, all the suggestions whispered to us by Darth Penis, all of it gets us in trouble.

And, when we get nostalgic for the past, we always dress it up in some ridiculous fantasy like 300, where everybody is shirtless and screaming and hacking things with swords. We are fed this idea that at one time, this is how the world was -- all of these impulses that have been getting us grounded and sent to detention from kindergarten on used to be not only allowed, but celebrated.

And then at some point, women took it all away.

A once-great world of heroes and strength and warriors and cigars and crude jokes has been replaced by this world of grumpy female supervisors looming over our cubicle to hand us a warning letter/memo about sending off-color jokes via email/sms/WhatsApp. Yes, that entire narrative is a grossly skewed and self-serving version of how society actually evolved. It doesn't matter.

The result is a combination of frustration and humiliation and powerlessness that makes us want to get it back in the only way we know how: with petty, immature acts of meanness.

#2. We Feel Powerless

I don't know what it's like to be a woman. I haven't been one in a long time. So as a result, it's not easy for me to describe what it's like to be a man, because I don't know what you're using for context. I'm going to do my best:

Did you ever watch old cartoons where a character is starving on a desert island, and when another character approaches, he's so hungry that he imagines the other character as a talking piece of food?
Here is an example to prove that men think of sex all the time. Here is what a friend of my mine messaged me:

"Three reasons, why men love oral sex

1. At last she is on her knees.

2. The tongue is finally moving for a good cause.

3. Five minutes of silence.

The bottom line here is sex for men is more physical and more of a pride satisfy-er as opposed to emotional and a sense of completion in women. Even in the above example it is evident that this guy here loves oral sex only because it shut's up her women.

It's like that for most men, most of the time. We're starving, and all women are various types of food. Only instead of food, it's sex. And we're trying to conduct our everyday business around the fact that we're trying to renew our driver's license with a talking pair of boobs. So, from about age 13 on, around 90 percent of our energy and discipline is devoted to overcoming this, to behave like civilized human beings and not like stray dogs in a meat market. One where instead of eating the meat, they want to hump it.

When a male thinks or talks about a female, he assumes that she spends every moment thinking about the size of her breasts and what they are doing. He assumes that women are thinking of themselves the same way we think of them.

Do you see what I'm getting at? Go look outside. See those cars driving by? Every car being driven by a man was designed and built and bought and sold with you in mind. The only reason why small, fuel-efficient or electric cars don't dominate the roads is because we want to look cool in our cars, to impress you.

Go look at a city skyline. All those skyscrapers? We built those to impress you, too. All those sports you see on TV? All of those guys learned to play purely because in school, playing sports gets you laid. All the music you hear on the radio? All of those guys learned to sing and play guitar because as a teenager, they figured out that absolutely nothing gets women out of their pants faster. It's the same reason all of the actors got into acting. It’s the same reason why every child wants to be taller, stronger and sharper…to impress a female and get laid with her.

All those wars we fight? Sure, at the upper levels, in the halls of political power, they have some complicated reasons for wanting some piece of land or access to some resource (more on this in the next article). But on the ground? Well, let me ask you this -- historically, when an army takes over a city, what happens to the women there?

It's all about you. All of it. All of civilization.

So where you see a world in which males dominate the boards of the Fortune 500, and own Congress, and sit at the head of all but a handful of the world's nations, men see themselves as utterly helpless. Because all of those powerful people only became powerful because they heard that women like power. This is really the heart of it, right here. This is why no amount of male domination will ever be enough, why no level of control or privilege or female submission will ever satisfy us. We can put you under a burqa, we can force you out of the workplace -- it won't matter. You're still all we think about, and that gives you power over us. And we resent you for it.

All of the most bitter disputes work like this, by the way: Both sides think they're the powerless party. It's why tipping servers is such a bitter topic among some people -- the server feels like the customer has all of the power (because their entire income comes from tips), and the customer feels like the server has all the power (because they can deny them food and drink and ruin their one night out). It's why the richest people in the world can talk like they're besieged victims, and mean it. It's why the male leaders of the most powerful and richest church in the world can talk like they're being made martyrs due to women asking for birth control. And mean it.

But that’s not the end of it.

#1. We've been Misunderstood a Lot Too

Keeping aside the things mentioned up above. There are some odd exceptions as I’ve come across. Also If I didn’t mention this I’d be having a lot of guys searching for me trying to get rid of me for provoking whatever remaining women they have in their lives.

I know a guy, quite personally. He happens to be the every other day guy from the neighborhood with a sky and reclusive personality. Now because of his reclusive nature he would not be expressing much about himself to anyone. Now every now and then I would find this guy expressing himself through some or the other physical gestures (.l.. ..l.) or cues. This included hugging and cuddling (No, he never cuddled to me. Neither of us are gay). This (hugging and cuddling) unfortunately is termed as a sexual behavior in this case. He also got branded as an attention seeker too. So, how many times have you felt to actually steal the cookie from the jar and giving a big fuck you to the people who always falsely accused you of stealing it when you actually didn’t steal it? Coming back to the interview excerpts of Delhi police. I'm sure everyone reading that has developed a bias against them. Then again we have an exception of RK Sisodia, Additional SHO of Sector 20 Noida Police Station, who had an entirely different opinion on the authenticity of rape cases. He was the only one to say that very few rape cases in NCR are false or questionable in nature. But then again, like the society ever bothered about such rare cases. All we’re concerned about is the masses. But then, how many of us actually realize that the masses are asses. This once again brings us back to one conclusion and to square one that:

GIRLS MUST READ & BOYS MUST KNOW:

¤ If you've have curves, you’re fat.

¤ If you don't then you’re flat.

¤ If you wear makeup, you’re fake..!

¤ If you don’t, then you’re a behenji/geek.

¤ If you dress up, you’re a Show off..!

¤ If you don’t bother, you’re a villager..!

¤ If you say what you think, you’re a bitch.

¤ If you say nothing, you have 'attitude problem'.

¤ If you cry sometimes, you’re a DRAMA QUEEN..!

¤ If you don’t, you’re emotionless..!

¤ If you’ve have guy friends, you’re a Slut..!